Your Time is for the Other: A Reminder to Nourish Yourself
A friend sent me a message the other day saying she was lying in bed because she needed her time.
For context, she has a six-month-old. And in that moment, her time meant simply lying there, resting, recharging, replying to friends, and just being for a moment.
I replied, “Enjoy YOUR time.”
And suddenly…lightbulb moment.
Maybe it’s because this idea has been fresh in my awareness lately, but I saw something I had never noticed before.
The word YOUR has OUR in it.
Your time is for the other. Because when we nourish ourselves, when we fill our spirit, tend to our inner gardens, and cultivate presence, they blossom for everyone around us to see, enjoy, and experience.
This was my reminder. And maybe, it’s yours too.
A reminder to fill up your own cup, not just for yourself, but because the world feels your energy. To do things just because they light you up, not just because they serve a purpose.
So, I signed myself up for a visit to a finca in the mountains here in Costa Rica…one I had been eyeing for months.
Because I had forgotten.
I forgot to dance. I forgot to sing. I forgot to play.
Somewhere along the way in the last year, life became serious. I had been so focused on healing, repair, and growth that I stopped tending to my own joy.
I told myself, But I am! I have my morning practices. I move my body. I take care of myself.
But really? That was just maintenance.
Now, it’s time to expand again, to have new experiences, to create connective moments, to ignite intuition through presence and play.
Thanks to a few big breakthroughs recently (full moon, eclipse energy maybe doing its thing?), I realized just how much I had forgotten to take inventory.
Not of my work. Not of my to-do list. But of my own spirit.
So, I pulled a card from my Simple Shifts Rituals for Change deck—the one called Inner Inventory: What Makes Your Spirit Happy?
It’s an invitation to:
List the things that bring you joy.
Notice where you are doing them (and celebrate that!).
See where you’re not, so you can start watering those parts of yourself again.
Maybe today, this is yours too.
Take a moment. Ask yourself:
What makes my spirit happy?
Where am I tending to it?
Where have I forgotten?
And then… go water what needs watering.
What’s one thing your spirit loves that you’ve been neglecting and how can you give it attention today?
